Nicolesingslave

Singapore, 30th August 2009.

It was a nights when good friends met for a round of umbrella drinks to exchange experience about our personal trek through the bleakest economic winter. It has been tough for everyone and the tired smiles showed. The consensus is that things are improving and Singapore has been luckier than most places. There was a brief discussion of the slow pace of the Calendar 2010 project. *Choke* Well, with everyone working multiple jobs to stay afloat is not a wonder that there was miniscule progress made. It takes time, energy, patience and faith to transforms free spirited friends into a cohesive work team.

A very deep philosophical discussion cropped up. The topic revolved around dealing with personal issues and revealing the hidden half to loved ones. Adaline gave us two wise advises when it came to opening the closet: one has to consider
the consequence from the wider social circle and one's ability to take gossips in stride. There were five obvious facets to transitioning that we could conclude. Life is a journey with a start and an end. In the course of the journey, we will learn as well as educate others. Thirdly, the destination is not as important as the journey. It's like climbing up a beautiful mountain early in the morning to admire the sunrise for a few hours. Eventually we have to descent. Fourthly, we can't escape from the circle of people whom we are associated with no matter how hard we try. Lastly, how we treat others is important. The fourth and last conclusions were derived by looking at how human lives were designed: we are meant to learn and teach. The endeavor to unleash the inner student and teacher requires tremendous courage. After the dizzy round of deep discussions, the gurls went over to Dixie's for a few rounds of pool.

For more on our tgurl groups, please visit our network:

Singapore: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls

Malaysia: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

Bangkok/Thailand: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

China: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

28th August 2009

Singapore

2 weeks before our munch, we still had not found a suitable place to host this month's BDSM munch. Our beloved bar, DYMK, was moving to a new location. Thus, the hunt for a new home started. Our SM moderators and community suggested, short listed and debated. But the finicky group could not settle for a place. The last few days to D-day, we finally decided on a place called Oohtique (http://www.oohtique.com/parties.asp). A few of the moderators reconnoitered the place and gave their thumbs up.

It was my first time in Oohtique and it was love at first sight. The place is private, cosy and most importantly classy. Oohtique is a gurls dream come true: a bar attached to a private shopping mall. Oohtique sells exquisite lingeries, imported dresses and decadent TOYS :-). The 70% discount sign just made this gurl drool. I finally met the OMG super gorgeous owner, Michelle, and her sexy assistant.

This August munch easily saw 25-30 participants with luminaries like the chairman of SDAM, gifted artists, busy execs and a founder of an SM bar in Thailand. There were plenty of hooks & crannies in Ootique for people to chit-chat privately. There was a lovely massage cum bondage bed in the main lounge. As the night wore on, people loosen up with Oohtique's cocktails and chilled beer. The ambience was the perfect mood setter for play. Master Alex (our very own Shibari expert) worked his ropes on hapless Annie. Before too long, Annie was hogtied on the bondage bed. We got to try all kinds of wonderful toys brought by Master JP. Mistress Karen did a demo on how to properly use the crop and flogger. Ouches & ooohs filled the room. The newbies watched with mouth opened and the lifestylers smiled. Of course, there was the constant SSC reminder (safe, sane & consensual) generously dished out by the moderators.

Ootique was kind enough to keep the place open until the last of us left. It was a perfect evening in a perfect place that set the mood for kink lubricated by delicious drinks served by the sexy Oohtique team.

For more information on our alternative lifestyle social network, please visit our associated sites:

Singapore BDSM: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sgdomsubs

SE Asia BDSM: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmASIAnetwork

Singapore's Dark movement: http://www.sdam.sg

China BDSM: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmCHINAnetwork

Ootique & Ooh louge: http://www.oohtique.com/parties.asp

Singapore

3rd August 2009

I have to admit that I was nervous meeting my idol, Decima after all she is the stuff of legend. For those newbies not familiar with SM in Asia, Fetish Fashion was the epitome of SM sophistication. Unfortunately it was also the Mecca of controversy in Hong Kong. Googling "Decima" and "Fetish Fashion" will turn out tomes on the early evolution of SM in Asia. Decima seemed to be the only voice that that spoked against the oppressiveness of the self-righteous. While the battle raged on in Hong Kong, the SM scene in Singapore had just started. While the Singapore SM group was using hand signals and a little bear dressed in leather, Fetish Fashion boasted two haute couture dungeons designed by the famous John Bannister of Fetters. It even had a retail store catering to kinksters. Let's just say that the three fellows and I felt a little silly staring at the tiny teddy. Yes, we were green with envy.

When I first received Decima's email, I did a double take. Could it be that after so many years, I finally get to meet my heroine? Decima was and will forever be Asia's beacon of sexual revolution & style. I read her email once, twice, thrice and finally realise that it was not a mirage. After a few exchanges, I was certain that it was really the founder of Fetish Fashion on the other side of the keyboard. My heart went pitter-patter, knees rattled and grey matter afire. I finally get my wish granted. Good things do come to those who wait. I SMS'ed a few of our key members from our local SM community to join our private gathering.  

Monday arrived none too soon. I was a bundle of nerves. 8:30pm on the dot, Decima and Master L rolled in. I treasured every minute. We traded scene news. There was so much similarity. A few myths were also debunked. We thought that after the Fetish Fashion court case debacle, Hong Kong was conservative. We found out that our Hong Kong cousins are more open than us in the South. When the clock struck midnight, I was thoroughly in love with Decima. She was everything I had imagined and more. She was witty, intelligent, elegant, refined, humorous and definitely had the pinch of wickedness that made her such a wonderful icon. Deanna helped me out with making our meet a little more interesting. In attendance were some my dearest friends: Mistress Karen & slave, Master Warren & slave, Master JP, Kityn, Mistress Fifi (co-founder of bdsmCHINAnetwork), SDAM Maestro DJ Saito, slave deanna and our friends in DYMK who made our meet a comfortable one. Thank you Ben, Muscle Man and Uncle.

You can find more on our SM social and networking groups in the links:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sgdomsubs

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmASIAnetwork

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmCHINAnetwork